Saturday, 21 June 2025

What does it mean to 'grow' as a human being - Rebecca Solnit

 

“Growing up, we say, as though we were trees, as though altitude was all that there was to be gained, but so much of the process is growing whole as the fragments are gathered, the patterns found.

Human infants are born with craniums made up of four plates that have not yet knit together into a solid dome so that their heads can compress to fit through the birth canal, so that the brain within can then expand. The seams of these plates are intricate, like fingers interlaced, like the meander of arctic rivers across tundra. The skull quadruples in size in the first few years, and if the bones knit together too soon, they restrict the growth of the brain; and if they don’t knit at all the brain remains unprotected.

Open enough to grow and closed enough to hold together is what a life must also be. We collage ourselves into being, finding the pieces of a worldview and people to love and reasons to live and then integrate them into a whole, a life consistent with its beliefs and desires, at least if we’re lucky.”


From : Recollections of my non-existence 


Good bones - By Maggie Smith



Tuesday, 17 June 2025

प्यार करने का एक तरीक़ा : नीरव

 

तुमको लिखी सभी कविताओं में
भर-भर के कहना चाहा है कि
तुमसे बेहद प्यार करता हूँ
पर कह नहीं पाता
अटता ही नहीं कहीं भी
तुम्हारे लिए मेरा प्रेम
पँक्तियों में तो बिल्कुल नहीं!
संभव ही नहीं हो पाया
किसी भी तरह
बन ही न पाए बिंब
जो बता सकें चाहतों का कितना गहरा दरिया
आँखों में लिए फिर रहा हूँ
तुम घबराना मत!
दृश्य है जो, वो थोड़ा-सा है
अदृश्य का आसमान बहुत बड़ा होता है
कितना कुछ है जो देखा नहीं गया
कितना कुछ है जो देखा नहीं जा सकता
इसी न देखे जा सकने वाले
शब्दों में न बाँधे जा सकने वाले
अदृश्य एहसासों में से मेरा प्रेम है
पानी नहीं छोड़ता पेड़ों पर कोई निशाँ
भीतर बैठा रहता है प्राण बनकर
चुपचाप
प्यार करने का एक तरीक़ा ये भी है।
नीरव

Monday, 16 June 2025

Process Work: An Experiential Journey into Identity, Reflexivity, and Transformation - By Steve Correa

 'Process work' is a very unique body of knowledge and practice that uses group 'laboratories' in facilitated setting to enable self exploration and personal growth. The only real way to understand the power and beauty of this work is to actually experience it. This body of work is not at all easy to describe in words - but this beautiful essay by Steve Correa is closest anyone I have seen coming to capturing it's truest core essence. 



Introduction

Process Work, particularly as practised in the Sumedhian tradition, is not merely a set of techniques or frameworks — it is a profound journey into the human psyche, a philosophical and experiential inquiry into identity, system, and transformation. It integrates Indian psychosocial wisdom, experiential methodologies, and contemporary group dynamics. This paper aims to elaborate on the ethos, structure, and transformative potential of Process Work, particularly in its Sumedhian expression, using foundational tenets, key stages, and rich metaphors derived from lived experience and practice.

Origins and Ethos

Process Work in India has its roots in the pioneering work of figures such as Professor Pulin Garg and Dharani P. Sinha, among others, who adapted Western methodologies from NTL, Tavistock, and Gestalt to Indian contexts. Institutions like ISABS, ISISD, and eventually Sumedhas have evolved this body of work to resonate with Indian sensibilities — placing emphasis on identity, community, context (kāla–time, deśa–space, and pātra–self), and the dynamic interplay between individual and system.

Sumedhian Process Work is built upon the understanding that transformation is not merely behavioural but ontological. It is anchored in simultaneity — holding the apparent opposites of self and other, thought and feeling, individual and collective, adaptation and impact — in dynamic tension. The process is less about offering a worldview and more about creating the conditions for each participant to discover their own.

The Tenets of Process Work

At its core, Sumedhian Process Work rests on a few key principles:

  1. Holistic Alignment — It seeks alignment between thought, feeling, and action, transcending behaviour modification to evoke deeper coherence.
  2. Multiplicity of Identity — Recognising that people hold multiple, often conflicting identities (e.g., healer, warrior, strategist), the work involves bringing these to awareness and integrating them, including those in shadow.
  3. Here-and-Now Work — Process Work unfolds in real-time, through live interactions in the group. It is not discussed as past or future but experienced as immediate and emergent.
  4. Four Aphorisms:
  • Make the invisible visible — surfacing unconscious dynamics.
  • Articulate the inarticulate — giving voice to suppressed truths.
  • Act the withheld — enabling expression of what is otherwise restrained.
  • Own the disowned — embracing shadow parts of the self.

These tenets are brought to life through group dynamics, role-taking, role-making, metaphorical play, and psychodrama — tools that allow individuals to move beyond words into a felt experience.

Stages of Transformation in Process Work

Process Work is not linear but rhythmic. Yet, a general arc of transformation is observable:

  1. Entrenchment in the Lens — Participants arrive with fixed worldviews, skeptical or resistant. Their perceptual lens — formed by past trauma, belief systems, and identity conditioning — filters how they engage.
  2. Tipping Point — Through a catalytic encounter, metaphor, or psychodrama enactment, something ruptures. A moment of resonance — a glimpse of vulnerability — creates a crack in the lens. Reflexivity is seeded.
  3. The Borrowed Lens — The participant begins resonating with facilitators or co-participants. Emotional sharing and openness increase, though there is a risk of adopting others’ insights rather than internalizing one’s own.
  4. Integration and Reflexivity — Reflexivity emerges. The participant starts examining their own lens, questioning habitual meanings, reclaiming agency, and making new choices.
  5. Lived Reflexivity — Finally, the insights gained are not left in the “lab.” The reflexive stance becomes a way of life, applied to work, family, leadership, relationships, and personal dilemmas.

Identity as a Dynamic Configuration

A central concern of Process Work is identity, not as a fixed entity, but a constellation of self-concept, worldview, inner responses, and behavioral patterns. Identity is like a riverbed through which the flow of life moves. While it offers structure, it is also shaped and reshaped by that flow. Participants come to see their identities as historically shaped “choices” that they may not have consciously made, such as being the “rescuer,” the “orphan,” or the “outsider.” These roles may have once served survival, but now they constrain growth.

The work invites participants to meet and integrate parts of the self they have disowned, bypassed, or vilified. Identity evolves as individuals learn to hold inner contradictions (e.g., the desire for safety versus the longing for freedom), question their emotional reflexes, and incorporate shadow elements.

The Role of Reflexivity

Reflexivity — the ability to examine the lens through which one perceives — is a cornerstone of Process Work. It is not about “correcting” a distorted view but about realizing that all views are partial. Reflexivity asks:

  • Why do I respond this way?
  • What am I not seeing?
  • What meanings do I ascribe automatically?

In this act of inquiry, freedom is born. One need not be bound by old patterns or defensive narratives. Reflexivity expands possibility — it allows identity to breathe, and the self to reconfigure its meaning-making systems.

Group as Mirror and Co-creator

The group is not just a context; it is an active mirror. Individual narratives are seen as both personal and systemic. The facilitators do not position themselves as experts, but rather as co-travelers who model vulnerability, speak from their journeys, and catch each other’s blind spots.

A key principle is “non-collusive empathy” — to be present and resonant without fixing, rescuing, or judging. Another is “holding multiplicity” — welcoming paradox rather than seeking resolution. The result is a sacred space where silence can speak, and unspoken pain finds voice.

Applications and Impact

Process Work’s influence goes beyond the personal. It helps participants engage with their contexts — family, organisation, society — in new ways. Participants are not armchair critics. They are seekers who wish to make a positive impact on their world. They come from diverse backgrounds — HR, education, social work, entrepreneurship — not necessarily to become facilitators, but to deepen their own awareness and effectiveness.

Some use the work in coaching, others in leadership development, while others apply it in healing, teaching, or community building. The transformation is not skill-based alone — it is ontological. Participants emerge more vibrant, more resilient, and more responsive — not because they were trained, but because they were transformed.

Simultaneity and Sankhya Resonance

A unique contribution of the Sumedhian Process Work is the principle of simultaneity — holding seemingly opposing states together. This is not just a philosophical stance but a lived methodology. For example, the facilitators hold the simultaneity of being insiders and outsiders in the system. Participants hold the simultaneity of adapting to the world while also imagining and shaping it.

Sankhya philosophy, especially the triad of Gati (movement), Niyati (order), and Sanghatana (emergent coherence), resonates deeply with this ethos. The self is seen not as static but as always in process, shaped by interpenetrating forces of past conditioning, present choice, and systemic flow.

Process Work is a radical invitation — to stop performing, to start becoming. It beckons individuals to step into sacred conversation with themselves and others, not through doctrine or instruction, but through lived experience. It is as much spiritual as it is psychological, as much collective as it is personal.

In a world hungry for authenticity and fractured by division, Process Work offers a methodology of wholeness. It does not fix people — it helps them see. It does not offer solutions — it opens inquiries. And in doing so, it transforms lives — quietly, profoundly, and forever.